No one trashes your name better than the person who is terrified that you are going to tell the truth.
2024 and 2025 changed my entire understanding of love, friendship, and chosen family. Many people I considered friends showed me how easily their opinion can be swayed by one-sided rumors. Some people distanced themselves, despite obvious contradictions, deceptive patterns, and a lack of credible evidence to support the narrative.
In my darkest hour, I did not know who I could trust and unfriended many who showed support for the people who abused and betrayed me.
I used to think that people knew me better and that our community was filled with independent thinkers, but I am not so naive anymore. Few bothered to seek the truth for themselves because their sympathy was manipulated. Those who still believe the lies will eventually see the true colors of those who played victim. Deception always fails the test of time.
I'm grateful for those who saw through the victim narrative and supported me behind the scenes. I'm blessed and thankful to have people like that in my life. I hope those who fell for the story see the truth before they find themselves in my shoes.
Up Next: I'll dismantle the web of lies and expose the real abusers, with receipts. Questions are welcomed.
This isn't about revenge — it's about truth, accountability, and how easily good people can be deceived.
I watched people I once welcomed into my home turn into a mob driven by fear and gossip. Folks who say they value community, due process, fairness, and inclusion stepped away and ostracized me based on rumors and heinous accusations.
To those who quietly supported me, thank you. Words can't describe how much your compassion and trust meant to me.
I hoped the rumors would fade, but my exes have obsessively slandered and framed me as an abuser while playing the victim, recruiting others to amplify the message and use as pawns to harass me. Over a year later, I'm still getting hounded at local events. And worse, they've targeted my new partner with fake dating profiles and disturbing calls at her workplace.
In early 2024, I breifly dated Alishpa Masood followed by Rainey Beaumier a few months later. I cut them out of my life when I realized that their abusive behavior was intentional. I try to see the good in everyone, so it was hard to admit to myself that they were not going to change.
Predictably, after I cut ties, they began a smear-campaign to destroy my reputation and protect their image. They made various false accusations, fearmongering in the name of safety and protecting others - a textbook NPD behavior.
The truth is that they manipulate and psychologically abuse romantic partners. When the relationship inevitably ends, they throw the former partner under the bus to distract the community from their destructive behavior. The pattern is clear when you take a closer look.
They know I have evidence of their deplorable acts. Fearing exposure and irrelevance, they made a coordinated effort to defame and discredit me with false, emotionally charged claims.
This is how covert abusers operate: they flip the script, manipulate, and recruit others to silence the target. They preach "believe the victim" to hijack compassion and shut down critical thinking. They shame those who question them for victim blaming and supporting an "abuser."
To those who stepped away, kindly stay there. If false accusations were what it took to reveal who values truth and thinks for themselves, then I'm grateful for your absence. Integrity can't be faked.
Next: I'll share what really happened behind the scenes and demonstrate that their accusations are confessions. Before you judge someone based on a rumor, think critically and demand evidence. This can happen to anyone.
In 2024, Beaumier and Masood set out to destroy my reputation because they feared I would expose their abusive, manipulative behavior.
After I stopped tolerating their manipulative behavior and made it clear they were no longer welcome in my home, they lied to the communities I participated in, crafting a twisted narrative to hide their wrongdoings. To give the story credibility, they recruited others I cut out of my life: an ex who assaulted me, a roommate I evicted, and anyone gullible enough to amplify the message.
I matched with Masood on OKCupid in 2013 while in a newly-open LTR. We met for coffee and formed a platonic friendship, catching up a few times each year. She eloped with her first husband in 2014. She was there for me when my LTR ended in late 2015 and again when my brother passed away in July 2016, attending his funeral. We started dating later that year and after seeing several red flags, I distanced myself. We became friends again after she reached out during COVID. She seemed to have grown into a responsible adult. I introduced her to the burn scene and hosted three birthday parties for her.
After a short-term manipulationship in 2024, I walked away from the last romantic partner to have met my brother. The red flags were too obvious to deny: breadcrumbing, future faking, gaslighting, silent treatment, triangulation, and DARVO patterns. I saw through her mask and could not un-see this time. I went no contact, blocking her on Facebook and excluding her from the Legendary Pool Party to protect my peace. Unfortunately for me, this caused a narcissistic injury and triggered her smear campaign.
I met Beaumier a few years before we started dating. Shortly after the relationship began, I caught her gaslighting me and recognized the cycle of emotional abuse Masood employs: Idealization, Devaluation, Discard, Repeat. Foolishly, I gave Beaumier the benefit of the doubt. I suggested couples counselling and signed us up at BetterHelp. and learned a hard lesson in the process. Despite my patience and understanding, her abuse escalated into rage episodes, the last of which got us both arrested on Halloween.
To get ahead of the narrative, they painted me as a physical and sexual abuser to my friends, acquaintences, and anyone who would listen. They did their best to discredit and cancel me. You don't have to take my word for it, I have an audio recording of Beaumier screaming threats of physical violence and promising to "ruin my life" in collaboration with Masood.
Masood falsely claimed I raped her ten years ago, portraying herself as a naive victim of grooming as she mourned her first husband. Conveniently, she did not tell you that she emotionally abused him and committed bigamy, marrying a second husband, 4 months before the first husband died from an overdose. Masood told me that he begged her to reconcile, as if it was an accomplishment.
Beaumier attempted to frame me for assault and succeeded minds of many. She filed a false police report, maliciously pursued prosecution, and circulated photos of scrapes and bruises from her drunken trip and fall. What she doesn't want you to know is that she was arrested for assaulting me and tresspassing in my home. She delusionally claims I lied to the police, but this recording proved otherwise in court.
For 8 months, I stayed silent as I waited for a fair trial, trusting that the jury would see the truth. During that time Masood, Beaumier, and their flying monkeys took to social media to convince people to ostracize me using gossip and manipulation. The narrative they've spun is pure defamation and their tactics border on criminal harassment.
Rape is a serious and readily provable crime and yet, Masood has no evidence, no police report, and no therapy records to support her claim; only gaslighting, manipulation, and twisted words that weaponized my empathy and willingness to validate others. She claimed to be speaking out to protect the community, falsely alleging that she witnessed me violate other young women. She provides no concrete details, because she knows that will expose her lies. Despite her posturing, Masood will never face anyone in legal channels because she knows it will ruin any credibility she may have.
The truth is that her accusations are confessions. I have therapy receipts and screenshots of her accountability-dodging narrative. The evidence shows that we had a dating relationship in 2016 which I ended shortly after she raped me and tried to flip the script. I remained friends with for some time to hold on to the memory of my brother. At the end of 2017, I ghosted her after realizing that she gaslights and uses her "friends" too.
We reconnected during COVID and gave friendship another chance. I hosted her birthday party in March 2022 and introduced her to the burner scene. In October, she told me she was kicked out a of house party because she followed the homeowners 16-year old daughter to her bedroom. Masood blamed her boyfriend, the young lady, and the fact that she was too drunk to realize that she was flirting with the only minor at a party full of people in their 30's.
In my experience, Masood regularly plays victim of sexual assault and claims to be black-out drunk to avoid accountability and manipulate those around her. Before our falling out, she falsely claimed a guest at my party violated her (I told her I was shocked to hear that because I saw her boyfriend follow them upstairs) and that an uber driver raped her. It was no surprise that she discouraged me from interrogating the guest and declined to pursue legal action against Uber because her claims were entirely fabricated.
After damaging property, tresspassing in my home, and attempting to drive drunk, Beaumier filed a false police report, blaming minor "boo-boos" on me. As you'll hear in the recording, I called 911 because I still wanted her to get her home safe, even after enduring an onslaught of verbal abuse.
The conflict began after I started a conversation about a struggle in our relationship. She took offense and raised her voice. We had been drinking, so I suggested that we talk about this another time and stepped into my bedroom, closing the door behind me. Suddenly, she began banging on the door, screaming at me and demanding that I return her property. I complied by gathering her personal items and leaving them on my front porch.
She followed me out and continued to yell. I started closing my door to lock her out of the house, but she tried to force her way back in, as she admits in the recording. I told her I was recording and she immediately tried to control the narrative, alleging that I "laid hands" on her. The truth is she tried to shove my door open and stuck her arm inside. I held her by the wrist and told her she's needs to get a ride home as I moved her out of the doorway. No harm done, except to her ego.
My evicted roommate let her back in against my will. She provoked, threatened, and verbally abused me for nearly 10 minutes before leaving the house and getting in her car. I took her keys and called 911. When the police arrived, she deflected and played the victim. The officers could tell there was more to the story and arrested us both. After a full trial, where the state suppressed her arrest and used everything against me to make their case, I was found not guilty by a jury of four women and two men.
The jury heard the whole story and saw what has been hidden from public eyes: she had her phone, keys, and personal property when I locked her out. She tresspassed and verbally abused me while I kept my cool and tried to de-escalate the conflict. She interfered with my 911 call, yelling and chasing me around my backyard. During the call, she grabbed me, causing us both to fall to the ground and suffer minor injuries. She lied on the stand, contradicting multiple statements captured on bodycam. She committed felony perjury in an attempt to make good on her threat to "ruin my life." Thankfully our justice system respects due process and demands credibility from accusers.
Unfortunately, many people I once called friends and regarded as critical thinkers didn't bother to seek out facts or evidence. They didn't ask for my side of the story. Instead, they chose fear and disgust over truth because it fit a familiar narrative. It was painful, but I get it - progressives want to believe the victim. Many turned their backs; not because I was guilty, but because it was easier than facing the social stigma of questioning the narrative.
Covert abusers thrive in the court of public opinion because they project, manipulate, and recruit others to amplify lies and hatred. They wear the mask of the victim to hide ruthless, abusive behavior. They loudly preach "believe the victim" to hijack compassion and shut down critical thinking. When I tried to speak about my abuse, I learned how quickly many people in this community abandon their principles when the victim is male.
I hope this community reflects on how easily fairness and justice were disregarded for a false sense of safety. Sadly, the actions of these women make it harder for real victims to be heard and allow real abusers to carry out their misdeeds because attention is focused on the innocent.
Compassion and fairness shouldn't depend on gender, popularity, or convenience. Yet I've watched self-described "progressives" behave like the extremists they claim to oppose; vilifying someone based on lies that fit their bias rather than evidence, casting due process aside. I used to consider many of these people friends. Watching them choose fear and conformity over fairness and truth made one thing clear, their values come second to opinions of the crowd.
What's Next? In follow-ups, I will share my experience with the justice system. After cross-examining the testimony of Beaumier, two officers, and an expert on domestic violence, my case was simply "The Defense rests". The trial was hardly fair; the state used everything against me and Beaumier was allowed to hide her own arrest. Fortunately, the evidence proved she told multiple lies under oath and the jury quickly delivered a unanimous verdict: Not Guilty.
The court of public opinion assumes men are the abusers in relationships. Abusive women exploit that bias to punish the partners who stand up to them and lure in the next victim.
I learned a lot about emotional abuse, manipulation, and personality disorders on my healing journey. I've long recognized many forms of poor behavior and used to make excuses for the red flags, reasoning that the person needed compassion and understanding to grow. Unfortunately, abusers thrive on the empathy and tolerance of others, weaponizing these virtues to exploit people and avoid doing the work to better themselves. Once I learned the patterns and let go of the idea that I could guide others, I stopped tolerating abusive patterns, and found a balance between boundless compassion and careful discernment.
This community is full of compassionate, loving people that let their sympathy blind them to lies and deception. The content below helped me develop a filter and strengthen my boundaries so that my emotions cannot be compromised or exploited.